Hypothetical situation: your dating this guy, you think he's perfect. He says that he doesn

then you find out he already one out there. What would your reaction be?

K, so my real situation is a little bit different. I have a child with the guy i thought was my best friend...he screwed me over, twice (i should have known better). His family and i are close and he bitches to them that I won't let him see his son. He has a myspace acount, on the profile it ask about kids then gives the option to state: maybe, someday, i don't want kids, proud parent, or no answer at all. His says I don't want kids. So basically my question is am I justified in being pissed?

Hypothetical situation: your dating this guy, you think he's perfect. He says that he doesn't want kids...

One thing about being online is that you can represent yourself anyway you want. Because he said no kids on line doesn't mean anything really. The best thing to keep in mind is, that whatever is good for your kid is what counts. Nothing else matters at all.

Hypothetical situation: your dating this guy, you think he's perfect. He says that he doesn't want kids...

No, obviously you tricked him or "oopsed" him into parenthood with the ol' "forgot to take my pill" routine. Can you blame him for not wanting any more yardapes?

Hypothetical situation: your dating this guy, you think he's perfect. He says that he doesn't want kids...

yeah that makes no sense, he should have 'proud parent' - or he doesn't want people to know he has a child, which means that they will start out under false pretenses...which is never good.

Hypothetical situation: your dating this guy, you think he's perfect. He says that he doesn't want kids...

Maybe he has always felt that way..and since he has one with you, he would like to see his child, but in the future, he does not want to have more. As for saying that he does not want kids on his myspace profile, he might feel that it is no body elses business if he has a child or not, and he might be looking for a girl, and is afraid of having children a turn off...

But I can definitly understand why you would be pissed...I would just let it go and move on...who cares what he does or does not do.

Hypothetical situation: your dating this guy, you think he's perfect. He says that he doesn't want kids...

Well, on the one hand it's his life, but it's also yours and your kids lives. If he's paying support or will some day, he will be entitled to visits (or he may be already). He is misleading girls he is approaching and this could cause upset in your children's lives. It could mean he will continue to sneak around and will not be there for the kids like he would otherwise be. I think he's doing everyone a disservice by being dishonest. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He's going to have girls waltzing in and out of his life on a regular basis rather than a more stable situation for your kids. If they go out with him because they think he doesn't have kids and then find out he does, they'll be pissed. I'm rambling, but I hope you get my point.